How to Ask a Girl Out in a Cute Way

You’ve crossed eyes with someone across a room, and you felt something in the air. It may have even been across a chat room in these modern times, given the rise and rise of online dating. In fact, according to research published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, sociologists found that an increasing number of heterosexual American singles are choosing to meet via an online dating website [1].

In their findings, it was estimated that 39 percent of couples now meet online, as opposed to 22 percent a few years previous in 2009. It seems that the trend of logging in and hooking up is continuing to rise, providing a simple solution for the endless worry of how to ask a crush out in person. And it’s obviously a successful tactic!

Nevertheless, some among us are traditionalists, those who love to meet single girls organically, in the real world, and woo your way to a well-earnt date, someway, somehow. If you feel seen reading that last statement, here are ten date ideas and tips on how to ask a girl out in a cute way. Thank us later.

Ask in Person

In the 21st century, the temptation is to pick up a phone and ask someone if they’re interested in catching a film or meeting up for a drink. While this is often a convenient and effective way to get in touch with someone you like, while potentially cushioning the blow of rejection, it also removes an element of sincerity from the request. If at all possible, always wait it out to ask someone on a date in person. The charm of being asked face-to-face is a huge win in today’s world and is almost guaranteed to lead to some level of success.

Send Flowers

You’ve seen it in the best of every Hollywood romance, yet it gets you straight in the feels every time. Approaching your crush with flowers or a thoughtful gift is romantic through and through – it never gets old. While flowers are a traditional option, don’t be tempted to pick up sidewalk-steals. Pick your own collection of wildflowers, buy a bunch that holds personal meaning, or make a single stem statement. A cheesy move can transform into a beautifully bespoke touch to dating with a little bit of thought, whether you hand-deliver the blooms or send a heartfelt message on a card.

Invite Them to Play a Game

This may fall into the realms of tech-cheat, but online games provide a fantastic opportunity to craft rapport between you and someone of interest. Social media games are a novel way to slide into her DMs without having to ask the dating question directly. From Words with Friends to Mario Kart Tour, apps of today are designed to keep us connected, so why not use them to build the beginnings for a new connection? If you’re feeling particularly brave, the video-call app, House Party, includes in-built games, such as Heads Up and Quick Draw, for Pictionary-esque fun. Shape a playful rivalry via online games to level up to real-world dates.

Say It with Food

Everyone knows the true way to the heart is via food! That in mind, a clear message laden over their favorite food is a crafty, unique route to a romantic rendezvous. Whether that certain someone is a sweet or savory person, all kinds of snacks are prepared to step up to the plate and score you that all-important date. Scrawl a message inside the lid of a fiery Meat Feast pizza delivery box, order personalized cupcakes decorated with hints towards the big question, or add some sweet romance to giant cookie icing. Definitely, a modern- tasty take on the age-old tradition of sending flowers.

Contact Name Change

If there was ever any question of whether it’s wrong to snoop on someone’s phone, this might be one of the only exceptions! This tactic requires staying cool and holding off on your desire to date said someone; forming the foundations to take things further in person without executing your plan until the time is right. Catch up in real life, flirt, have fun, and find a reason to borrow your crush’s phone. Nip out to make a private call and, as you do, change your own contact name to read ‘Will you go out on a date with me?’ or a colloquially creative alternative. After a cute afternoon together, ring your crush to reminisce. Your contact name will pop the question before the call’s even connected! Clever.

Coffee Date

What could be more casual than a coffee date between friends? Asking someone to chat over coffee has become a regular event in modern-day culture. For guys who are a little anxious about any big romantic gesture, the coffee cup idea is among the less nervy, while maintaining some cool charisma. While your crush takes a seat, order the drinks, requesting that the barista ink your question to the coffee cup, in place of a name. Collect your order, join your date-to-be (guaranteed), and enjoy the look of surprise on their face as the message is realized. Smooth. And that’s not just the Costa Rican coffee.

Pass a Note

Whether you work in an office or meet eyes with someone special across a crowded mall, nothing says, ‘will you be my girlfriend?’ quite like a handwritten message. The connotations of young love entwined with the nostalgia of high-school sweethearts romance is enough to propel someone into the midst of a whirlwind date. Your note could simply contain your cell phone number or be as creative and flowery as a poem, whatever suits your style, and allows your voice to shine through in your stylistic choices. The nonchalance of the love note oozes confidence, the ideal distinguishing characteristic for a Casanova.

Enjoy a Joint Hobby

Many successful relationships are born between couples who share interests. Common ground is the perfect place to foster and nourish the roots of your romance. From gardening in allotments and rambling in the mountains to book groups and classic film clubs, options are endless. Through casual conversation, gauge an inkling for their interests then do a little local research. When you next talk, drop the suggestion into your chat, complete with a time and place to meet for your first shared activity. From there on in, the rest, as they say, will be history.

Golden Ticket

Add a touch of magic to your date request, with a little nod towards one of the most extraordinary adventures of all time. Combine the original sweet treats date idea with the timelessness of note giving by carefully packaging your very own golden ticket within the wrapper of a favorite chocolate bar. Plan an excursion to rival that of Willy Wonka’s chocolate factory, whether you head to a local landmark, a theme park, or even an apt chocolatier course. With all the bespoke details printed onto metallic card, your date will be far too tempting to turn down.

Make It Irresistible

Sure, it’s cute to ask someone out in person, but the risk of rejection is real. Make sure that you’re guaranteed to bag your dream date by making your suggestion simply irresistible. Go out on a limb with a pair of gig tickets, seats to the game, or a local live event. How could anyone say no to that!

[1] Rosenfeld, M. J., Thomas, R. J. & Hausen, S. (2019). Disintermediating your friends: How online dating in the United States displaces other ways of m